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Audrey Harper. Blogger. Former teen mom to a tween with ADHD. Fiancée to Brian. Diagnosed with BPD. Yoga + health enthusiast.

  • Love Life

    35 Signs You’re in a Borderline and Narcissist Relationship

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    Trigger Warning: Narcissistic abuse. “Borderline” and “Narcissist” are used as labels for simplicity & SEO purposes but these terms may feel shameful to some – we also can’t armchair diagnose others. Read at your own discretion.

    The following post was written by Jasper

    Are you living with BPD and in a difficult relationship with someone you think may be narcissistic? Perhaps they say hurtful things or make comments that make you feel like your feelings and opinions don’t matter. Or, maybe after spending time together, you often find yourself feeling drained or exhausted due to the constant drama and manipulation. If this sounds familiar, then it’s possible that your partner is narcissistic and you’re in a borderline and narcissist relationship.

    Being in any type of relationship with someone who has narcissistic traits or NPD can be incredibly challenging – but it’s especially hard if you have borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this blog post, we aim to provide clarity so that those in a potential borderline and narcissist relationship are better equipped to comprehend their dynamic more clearly.

    We’ll do that by going over 35 signs you can use to see if you may be in a borderline and narcissist relationship. But first, let’s cover some basics about the BPD and narcissist couple.

  • Flashback Friday

    Living with BPD Story: Arpita’s Experience (In Their Words)

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    Stock Photo – not real representation

    Trigger Warning: verbal & physical abuse, self harm, suicide attempts, death by suicide, hospitalization. Read at your own discretion.

    The following post was written by Arpita

    My Living with BPD Story

    “Hello everyone. I am Arpita, a resident of Delhi, India. I will be telling you my living with bpd story today. I was born after 16 years since my parents got married. I had an elder sister and an elder brother. My brother went to United Stated when I was in kinder garden. I had witness a lot of verbal abuse in my childhood which was normal to me. Sometimes, even physical abuse.

    There was not a single day I did not see anyone fight at my house. I felt extremely lonely and stayed isolated because I was almost always scared of sharing anything with anyone as a child. After 5 years my brother came back to India. Unexpectedly, the fights increased. As I was very young when my brother and sister graduated, I could not figure out that the environment was toxic.

  • Top Picks

    75 Ideas for a DIY Depression Care Package

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    Build a Care Package for Someone with Depression

    I’m Audrey Harper — the woman behind BPD Beautiful, a BPD recovery blog that aims to spread BPD awareness and assist others in understanding those living with BPD. This post features product ideas for a DIY depression care package for either your loved one with depression, a charity serving a depressed community or even for yourself.

    Since BPD Beautiful is a BPD recovery blog, of course I have to mention the correlation between depression and borderline personality disorder at least once in this post. Here are some statistics originally found on verywellmind

    BPD and depression commonly occur together. One study found that about 96% of patients with BPD met criteria for a mood disorder. In this study, about 83% of patients with BPD also met criteria for major depressive disorder, and about 39% of patients with BPD also met criteria for dysthymic disorder.  

  • Living With BPD

    Living with BPD: 1 Year vs. 3 Years of DBT for BPD Recovery

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    Photo by Finn on Unsplash

    From ‘Hopeless’ BPD Traits to BPD Recovery

    My name is Audrey and I have borderline personality disorder (BPD). I created this blog because I want to help spread BPD awareness and help others in understanding BPD—a debilitating, life threatening and highly stigmatized condition that causes frequent and intense mood swings, all or nothing thinking, a fear of abandonment, a chronic feeling of emptiness, explosive rage and more.

    The first section of the following post was started in 2020 just about one year after starting DBT. Present day takeaways written in 2022 are in the second section to show how three years of regular DBT practice can help someone living with BPD.

    Currently (in Sept 2022)—I am in remission and have went from having all 9 BPD symptoms to only having 2-3 BPD symptoms. This means I, at the time, do not meet diagnostic criteria. Borderline personality disorder is treatable. This post is proof of that.